from the movie "shopgirl"

"... that it is afterglow that is important to a woman, much more important that the sex act itself.
a woman needs to be held, even if - and science has shown this - its by someone she doesn't care about. protective hormones are released and the amount of hormones released depend on the degree to which she is held.
the first and best is the complete surround - he wraps her in both arms, whispers how beautiful you are. second best is the arm around - he is next to you with one arm around you. third is just next to you on his elbow but he rests his hand on your stomach and looks at you. fourth is you snuggling up to him with your head on his chest while he looks away into space.
but when the first and best happens you feel completely and wonderfully like a woman."